For many men around the world, one very personal subject has often been a cause for worry: the size of their penis. These concerns are caused by many things, including the amount of false ideas there are about:
- what the average penis size is
- how important penis size is to sex
- what penis size means to how you feel as a man
Man has always placed great importance on the size of his penis. Many cultures associate penis size with masculinity. Throughout the ages, it has come to symbolise qualities such as virility, fertility, strength, ability and courage. Some men go to extreme lengths to try to increase the size of their penis. Indian mystics known as Sadhus have been known to stretch their penis from an early age by hanging weights on it, while the Topinama tribesmen of Brazil encouraged poisonous snakes to bite their penis to enlarge it.
Feeling inadequate can really damage a man’s self-confidence and affect his social life. It can lead to issues from being unable to use public urinals or shared shower rooms, to avoiding intimate relationships. Companies around the world have exploited this anxiety, selling pills, penis extenders and other penis enlargement products that promise to “increase the length and girth of your manhood fast, or your money back!”.
Separating facts from myths
Beliefs about the penis
- You can “break” or fracture your penis.
True. Break is a bit too heavy-handed of a characterization, but yep, you can fracture your little guy while erect
- There are “growers” and there are “showers.”
True. This one’s true! If you’re a shower (#blessed), you look large and in charge all of the time and the penis does not significantly lengthen during sex.
- A curved penis is not normal. A penis should be totally straight.
False. Penises come in all sorts of fun shapes and sizes. A curved penis is generally no big deal ― some even say the curve is more effective in hitting the G-spot during sex.
- A man’s shoe size can tell you a lot about the size of his penis.
- Men feel so much less during sex when wearing a condom.
True. Yes, the extra layer of rubber to the mix can reduce penile sensation for guys, but there are ways to make sex with condoms more pleasurable.
- Daily ejaculation hurts your sperm count
True. Masturbating, or daily sex with a partner, will lower you sperm count, but only temporarily.
- Blue balls happen when a man endures prolonged periods of sexual arousal without an orgasm. It’s very painful.
True. Yes, blue balls are definitely “a thing,” but generally not very painful
- Circumcision reduces sexual pleasure
The answer isn’t clear-cut with this one.
- The bigger the penis, the better it gets
False. Skill not size is what most women look for.
- Big penis only means more pleasure
False. On the contrary, a big penis may mean pain.
- A penis can never be too big for a vagina
False. Size can in fact be a compatibility issue. Your size and her vagina may not always bond well.
- Sex is only about penetration
False. There are other ways to have sex which does not include penetration.
- An erect penis is at least 7 inches
False. Many men around the world have penises for less that size and still perform well in bed.
- You can make your penis bigger
False. Penis size is in the DNA and cannot be changed by intake of Viagra or rubbing cream on it. A surgery can enlarge but make a lot of inquiries especially about its pros and cons.
According to a study reported in the journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity, the erect penis size of 68 percent of men is between 4.6 and 6 inches long. About 16 percent of men have an erect penis size longer than 6.1 inches, and of those only 2.5 percent are over 6.9 inches. About 16 percent of men have an erect penis size that’s shorter than 4.5 inches, with only 2.5 percent under 3.7 inches. So now you know. But do you know who is worried about penis size? Look in the mirror.
In the same study of more than 52,000 participants, men and women, 45 percent of men reported that they were unsatisfied with their penis size and wanted to be larger. Compare that figure to the 16 percent who actually are shorter than average. And the perception didn’t change with age, about the same number of older men were unhappy with their penis size as were younger guys.
These concerns of inadequacy have consequences. Men who believed their penis size was too small were less likely to undress in front of their partner, more likely to hide their penis during sex, and more likely to judge themselves unattractive. On the other hand, men who thought they had a large penis were likely to be more self-confident and believe themselves to be attractive. Interestingly, 84 percent of the women surveyed reported that they were satisfied with their partner’s penis size. So it’s not her problem, guy, it’s yours.
That’s not the end of the story, though. Penis size does matter to women, but it turns out that when women talk about penis size, it’s usually about the width, not the length.
The most important thing
Penis size is not the final determining factor in a man’s ability to satisfy a woman or enjoy sex. The two of the most sexually sensitive areas for a woman, the clitoris and the G-spot, are both easily reached and aroused. “The G-spot is only one-third up inside the vaginal barrel,” Britton explains. “For women who tend to be G-spot oriented, a small or short penis can do the job, and the G-spot can produce ecstatic pleasure.”
If you feel your penis is too skinny to satisfy your lover, there are ways around that as well. Sex toy companies have created latex or rubber rings or sleeves that fit around the penis and provide that feeling of fullness for her.