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Kissing: A clash of tongues


Wet sensations, tongue rolling, mouths moving against each other. The head swells and you can feel your heart beat against the wall of your chest. You feel you want to go into your partner, to feel their soul. Suddenly, you feel hot not minding if it’s freezing cold, if you persist in this act, you might lose your breath. It has a lot of names: making out, tongue wrestling, canoodle, and snogging, and a host of others.

Remember those movie scenes showing two great lovers kissing passionately that it turned you on; the licks, the sounds, the movement of the jaw, and closing of the eyes. Some are slow and calculated, others are fast, but both have a passion for them that is nearly impossible to resist. It might look easy but many sexually active persons do not know how to give a good, one that leaves a lasting impression on both of them. Kissing is an art and we shall talk about how to go about it.

Types of kiss

Kisses are differentiated by the technique and part of the body where kissing is done. The different types of kisses listed can be used interchangeably.

  • French kiss
  • Single lip kiss
  • Lizzy kiss
  • American kiss
  • Ice kiss
  • Nibble kiss
  • Lip trace kiss
  • Butterfly kiss
  • The lip gloss kiss
  • Spiderman kiss
  • Earlobe kiss
  • Hickey
  • Air kiss
  • The sugar kiss
  • Underwater kiss
  • Drink kiss
  • Eskimo kiss
  • Vacuum kiss
  • Candy kiss
  • Chin kiss
  • Vampire kiss
  • Jawline kiss
  • Wet kiss


Reasons for kissing

  • As part of the romance
  • To seduce
  • As a foreplay
  • To bid farewell
  • To show love
  • To show someone how much you love them

Who we kiss

  • A partner/spouse
  • Friend
  • Child
  • A religious leader
  • A visitor (as part of one’s culture)

How to kiss

French kissing is the most popular type of kiss featured on TV and in movies. For that reason, we have chosen it to give as an example.

Keep your tongue in check

The first rule of French kissing: use sparingly. Using too much tongue is a major kissing mistake. Start off by lightly finding their tongue with the tip of yours, then pull back. Then, try grazing past the tip of their tongue and pull back. Circle the tip of their tongue, then pull back. The pullback gives you time to breathe and keeps from an overflow of saliva.

When you’re feeling up for it, you can try running your tongue just along the inside of their upper lip, or pull a quick lick under their top lip in a sort of come-here maneuver.

Don’t nibble, tug

I’m sorry the thought of someone “nibbling” on my lip the way I nibble on straws and pen caps and beef jerky is honestly terrifying. Why do we still tell each other to nibble? Good teeth action starts with taking bae’s bottom lip between your front teeth, giving a gentle tug, and letting go. When you think about it, it’s not an actual nibble.

Build up to the big moment

Before kissing, lean in and swipe your lips past theirs, slowly and lightly, then pull back. Take a one-two pause to bask in your partners “I need your face” reaction before going in for the kill. And for those feeling sassy: If you’ve taken a break and are getting ready to lean back in, build up some anticipation by pulling back a half-inch and smiling. A little tantalization goes a long way.

Keep your hands on the good spots

When you first start in on the monumental kiss you’ve been waiting all these months for, you might wonder, what am I supposed to do with my hands? Stick to the good spots, my friend. Here are all the best options:

  • Place both of your hands on either side of their head, then slide them back into their hair.
  • Put one on their lower back and one behind the neck (can also venture into Hair Land).
  • Try both hands lightly resting on their chest.
  • Or, opt for both hands on their hips, which you can then sneak around their lower back for a squeeze.
  • Pull on the neck of their shirt a little bit.
  • Lastly, try running a few fingers up and down their spine, down the nape of their neck, or hovering around their cheeks and jaw.

After the kiss

Communication is a key factor in every kiss. It helps you understand your partner (and vice versa), so you can enjoy kissing in a way that’s pleasurable for everyone involved. While you can give feedback during a kiss either verbally or nonverbally, here are some ways to gently give or receive feedback afterward:

  • I really liked it when you did…
  • … felt really good…
  • Next time, we should try more/less of…
  • Did you like it when I tried…
  • Is it OK if we do…
  • I’m not sure I’m comfortable with…. Can we try less of that?


Kissing in public

When you are public, you shouldn’t begin to show how great a kisser you. You could be arrested and charged with indecent behavior. It could be worse when minors are involved. So, how do you show your partner, spouse, or lover affection? These are some suggestions.

  • The tip-of-the-nose.
  • The forehead.
  • The knuckle-peck.
  • The inside-of-the-wrist lip-graze.


We can’t always control when the mood for a kiss strikes, but a little preparation goes a long way. You don’t need to overthink it! If you know that kissing might be on the agenda, make sure your lips aren’t dry or cracked, and maybe skip the garlic bread. A good rule of thumb is to do regular lip scrubs to keep chapped and peeling lips at bay especially during the winter and keep lip balm on hand.

Worried about your breath? There’s nothing wrong with taking a quick trip to the bathroom to brush your teeth! You can also rely on a breath mint or a piece of gum to keep your mouth minty fresh.

Some crazy facts about kissing

  • It requires 112 postural muscles, 5 cranial nerves and 34 facial muscles to kiss.
  • Men who gets kisses from their wives gets 5 years added to their lives.
  • The world’s longest kiss lasted for 58 hours, 35 minutes and 58 seconds.
  • Kissing reduces blood pressure.
  • Kissing helps preventing tooth decay.
  • Kissing for one minutes will make you loose 2 to 3 calories.









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