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The truth about porn: fact and fiction

 

Do you remember the things you were told about porn, how it would teach you to have sex, and how to give sexual pleasure? Which of those things you were told about porn sex stood out for you? We live in a time when for many teenagers, pornography is the only available source of sex information; even for some adults. Teens are encouraged are advised to keep away from sex-related topics till they are married. Adults watch porn to update their ‘bed skills’. The issue at hand is not viewing pornography, but about taking life lessons in sex from consuming pornographic materials. What is true about sex as described in pornography?

Sadly, due to the high consumption of porn by many people, there are a lot of misguided ideas about how sex should be. Let us dispute some of these ideas.

  1. Most guys in real life don’t usually have very large penises. As against what is portrayed in porn videos, guys don’t have penises like big snakes, many guys have average-sized or small penises. And good sex doesn’t rely on big penises.
  2. In real life, most girls don’t want to have a guy who’s too well-endowed. They would prefer a guy who knows how to give sexual pleasure to a guy who is too well-endowed. Moreover, having sex with a ‘too well-endowed penis’ can be very painful and many girls would prefer to run away from such an experience.
  3. Sex in real life is a lot more emotional than in porn films. While porn shows you the acrobatics, real-life sex leaves a lasting impression on you, even if it is a casual fling
  4. Real-life sex has more communication than in porn shoots. Porn is acting and choreography.
  5. Porn relies a lot on camera angles to catch every moment, therefore the actors take a lot of uncomfortable positions as directed by those filming. These angles can be impossible for the average person.
  6. Porn shows that women have an orgasm from vaginal sex alone. In real life sex, a typical woman would need her clitoris, nipples, and other parts of her body to be stimulated to reach orgasm. Many men do not know this because of what porn shows them.
  7. Many women don’t squirt. Statistics show that only around 6 percent of women squirt on a regular basis, and in order for that to happen, they typically have to have their G-spot massaged.
  8. Real-life sex can be messy, smelly, and sweaty. There might be farting, belching, and other weird things but porn doesn’t show these things.
  9. Real-life sex can be awkward sometimes. Sex in real life can be super awful and disappointing. This is a part of life, not everything in life goes as planned. However, porn doesn’t show this.
  10. There is a belief that VIP room parties almost always have giant orgies going on in them. This is not true in most cases. It is possible that porn video producers like to choose their plots in order to stimulate the viewer and not present what is possible in reality
  11. In real life, women also don’t react well to misogynistic pickup lines. In reality, women really don’t like hearing guys act like misogynistic jerks. Acting like a misogynist with a girl will usually only result in a breakup and a bad reputation with the womenfolk.
  12. Real sex has breaks in between. Having sex can be an exhausting activity and the couple may need to take breaks from time to time to catch their breath or have a drink. This is normal, but porn shows a continuous sex session devoid of breaks or stops and lasting for up to thirty minutes or more.

 

Effects of these myths on sexual behavior

  • Unrealistic standards for sex. For many porn users, sex should always go smoothly and be satisfying. When such persons encounter some discomfort or irritation during sex, they might flip and lose interest. Sex should be more than pleasure and release. It is intimacy, lovemaking to get satisfied and get the other person satisfied too.
  • Disappointment in relationships. A lot of porn consumers could get disappointed when they do not get the same sexual experience they see in porn videos. In a bid to seek those kinds of pleasures, they may go out of the relationship to find that person who could give them such experience. In the end, the relationship they have would crumble.
  • Setting unrealistic standards for people. For porn consumers, it is possible to demand certain pleasure s from a partner or someone they are having sex with. For instance, going to more than one round of sex, having sex at awkward positions, trying out extreme sex such as BDSM. Not everyone can endure more than one round of sex or like to have a BDSM and the person could leave disappointed.
  • A tendency to abuse women. Many pornography videos show violence and misogynistic attitudes which would impress on consumers.
  • A high propensity to relegate sex to just having fun. Many porn users would see sex as just an outlet of release and nothing more. Therefore the individual would shun relationships or any form of commitment so as to be free to have as much ‘fun’ as they can.

 

It is important to state that pornography videos are acting most of the time. The actors there follow a script and a director’s instruction. Some of them take some form of hard drugs to keep up the performance. Therefore pornography is not a good place to get information about sex.

The bottom line…

Sex should be romantic, spontaneous, and based on what the partners want. Sometimes it can be noisy or not. The focus should be on the partner, not as it is shown by the actors in porn. A variety of positions for sex exist but do the ones which are most comfortable and satisfying for both partners. Follow your own script, the one written by yourself. And lastly, porn does have its benefits but it is not the best place to get sex education from.

Resources

https://www.yourtango.com/2017301853/15-major-differences-between-porn-sex-vs-real-sex

 

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