Your date is a charmer, clever, and exudes confidence. However, he is excessively controlling. Your partner goes too far in his teases with another lady at an evening gathering. When you talk to him about it, he accuses you of not trusting him enough and of being insecure and controlling. After a long quarrel,…
What was it like for you the first time you had a wet dream? Is it the same feeling you have each time you have a wet dream? Some teenagers, even men, may feel embarrassed or even guilty about having wet dreams. But they are a normal part of growing up and you can’t…
Among sexually active men, especially young people, there is a feeling of anxiety over their sexual performance. Sometimes, there is a basis for these feelings, other times, these feelings are borne out of a need to prove their manhood. These men worry about the size of their penis, hitting the right spots during sex,…
What would be your reaction when you discover that your partner watches pornography? Would you feel insecure, offended or it wouldn’t bother you at all? For some persons, catching their partner in the act of watching pornography may leave them with feelings of mistrust, insufficiency, or anxiety about their sexual performance. Do you think…
While the arguments for and against pornography continue to rage on, it is important to reflect on how pornography addiction begins. Pornography is any video, audio, written material, or pictures created for the purpose of causing sexual arousal and used as a form of sexual gratification. A person is said to have an addiction…
Sex is a hot topic among teenage and adult users of the internet. A lot of internet traffic is directed towards sexually-oriented applications and online fora. The Internet is increasingly used by young people as an outlet for a lot of sexual activity because of its accessibility and affordability in most parts of Africa,…
We live in the internet age, and our lives revolve around the internet. We can now work, connect, read, and entertain ourselves using the internet. We have an unlimited amount of resources at our disposal and the world is becoming more of a global village than it has been before. But do you know…
The subject of sex education doesn’t sit well with a lot of religious and church-going people. Many of them condemn it as a devilish ploy to corrupt the minds of the children of God. although some religious people think that teenagers should be taught sex education, a portion of them, though they consider themselves…
Do you remember the first time you watched a pornographic video? What did it feel like? Do you still watch porn, why do you still watch porn? A lot of people watch pornography, it is a fact and different peoples have different reasons for it. What is yours? As part of growing up, teenagers…
It was a hot Saturday morning, and I decided to go to the hair salon in my street to wash my hair. There was already a long queue of people on getting there, and I was the fifth person coupled with two other customers that were already being attended to. One was having a…
Mine is not a fight or quarrel but a concern. This concern is for language and rights. In the last decade, there has been a lot of strides in pushing rights for sexual minorities. A lot of organizations have taken it upon themselves to change the terminology about gender identities. So, I was…
A teacher asked a question one day. “What is the opposite of the children’s store?” A girl in the class thought about it for a while and raised her hands. She wanted to be the one to win the prize the teacher had promised anymore who answered the most questions correctly. She stood up…
Diabetes is a medical condition arising from excess sugar circulating in the blood. Usually, after a heavy carbohydrate meal, the body converts all the sugar in the body to be used as energy or stored. The hormone, Insulin, controls the conversion of sugar in the blood. However, in diabetic conditions, Insulin is either absent…
A therapist session Partner 1: It was a very beautiful relationship and one I would never forget in a long time. My friends were envious and never hid it from me. They told me how lucky I was to have a man who would show up at my workplace with gifts and take me…
Flirting is the generic name we give to an incidence of sexual infidelity. Most couples would like to keep their partner to themselves but find that it is a mission that is nearly impossible. Well, there is love and there is heartbreak, the movement from a state of being in love to break up…
There is a lot of tension these days in relationships. Many of those tensions revolve around sex. People cheat, change partners consistently, move from relationship to relationship. You say women don’t know what they want, others say men are dogs. In some quarters the word on the street is that gay men never stay…
Wet sensations, tongue rolling, mouths moving against each other. The head swells and you can feel your heart beat against the wall of your chest. You feel you want to go into your partner, to feel their soul. Suddenly, you feel hot not minding if it’s freezing cold, if you persist in this act,…
Voyeurism is defined as an interest in observing unsuspecting people while they undress, are naked, or engage in sexual activities. The interest is usually more in the act of watching, rather than in the person being watched. The person doing the watching is called a voyeur, but you might hear them casually referred to…
Whether you use the technical term fellatio or call it a blowjob, going down, giving head, or something else, performing fellatio is an act that requires a lot of trust and a little bit of knowledge. We mostly think of fellatio as being one person licking or sucking a partner’s penis. Keep in mind that while…
Cybersex isn’t one thing. Instead, the word describes a group of activities that has one critical thing in common—it takes place over the internet or another electronic network. In other words, cybersex is fundamentally virtual and does not involve person-to-person physical contact. It can be an activity for one, two, or even more, and can…
If you’ve ever wondered why it feels so freakin’ good to walk around your house naked, it could be because you’re an exhibitionist. Don’t get me wrong: I recognize that you don’t have to identify this way in order to just fully embrace a braless moment. But feeding off of your S.O.’s attention while you parade around without…
Humans having sex with animals is called bestiality. Zoophilia refers more to the bigger picture of people who have a desire to form sexual relationships with animals. Not all zoophiles necessarily engage in acts of bestiality, but the vast majority do, hence the two terms often being used interchangeably. The most common animals involved…
Erotic asphyxiation is the official term for breath play. This type of sexual activity involves intentionally cutting off the air supply for you or your partner with choking, suffocating, and other acts. People who are into breath play say it can heighten sexual arousal and make orgasms more intense. However, it isn’t without its…
An orgy is a sex party where guests freely engage in open and unrestrained sexual activity or group sex. It is not a new sexual practice, stories from ancient Rome and Greece can attest to that. Basically, orgies are organized for people of any of the sexes: it could be an all-male thing (as…
Sex toys also called adult toys or “marital aids” are objects people use to have more pleasure during sex or masturbation. Sometimes sex toys can also have medical uses if you have sexual dysfunction or a medical condition. There are many different types of sex toys, and people use them for lots of different reasons. It’s totally normal…
Urophilia, also known as “golden showers” or “watersports,” is a sexual variation where people derive pleasure from urine or urination. The arousal is associated with smelling, feeling, or tasting urine, as well as urinating on someone or being urinated on by someone else. Sometimes, the pleasure derives from the physical urine (i.e., the warmth…
Having unprotected sex is not a wise thing but it does happen. Among young people, even adults, emotions can become high and sex happens without thinking of putting on a condom or any other contraceptive. Unprotected sex is any sex without contraception or a condom. A lot of persons, especially young girls and women feel afraid…
Having multiple sexual partners is not new, it goes back to the ancients. Some people form groups that have sex together or differently among their circle. Others just move from person to person. Whatever your preference, having multiple sexual partners is a thing. How you feel about that is left to you but be…
Nymphomania is a mental disorder marked by compulsive sexual behavior. Compulsions are unwanted actions, or rituals, that a person engages in repeatedly without getting pleasure from them or being able to control them. In the case of nymphomania, people act out their compulsions by engaging in risky behaviors such as promiscuity. Whether or not…
The word intercrural is partially derived from Latin, where inter means between, and crura means legs. The definition of intercrural sex is that it is a type of sexual intercourse where a man puts his penis between the partner’s thighs (often with lubrication), and thrusts repeatedly to create friction, for an orgasm. What’s in…
Foreplay has a reputation as a warm-up or leads to sex, the appetizer to the main course which is intercourse. But maybe it’s time we stop thinking about it in such an old-school way. After all, only 30% of women can reach orgasm from penis-in-vagina penetration alone. It’s the moves we typically think of…
Generally speaking, fisting is a sex act that involves using all the fingers on one hand to penetrate and pleasure any orifice on the body: mouth, vagina, or anus. So, anal fisting involves using the entirety of the hand to fill, pleasure, or thrust into the anal canal. Anyone can give it a try As sex…
While you might like the sight of your partner in a pair of high heels during sex, that doesn’t necessarily mean you have a shoe fetish. A fetish is sexual excitement in response to an object or body part that’s not typically sexual, such as shoes or feet. They’re more common in men. Many…
Dry humping is sexual activity that doesn’t involve direct contact between genitals (dry referring to the lack of bodily fluid exchanged). It can involve various sexual behaviors, including (but not limited to) rubbing or touching a partner through their clothing. Dry hump has existed in popular slang since at least the 1960s. The use of the word hump with…
Sexual enhancers are drugs which enhance (normal/abnormal) erectile function and aphrodisiacs which increase sexual arousal and desire. Erectile dysfunction has been a condition affecting men since ancient times. All early attempts to treat erectile dysfunction (e.g. inflatable penis implants and vacuum pumps) failed and it was not until the early 1990s that the treatment…
Sex Talking about sex and sexuality could be tiring because it is a broad topic. Asides intercourse, sex is “a label assigned at birth based on the reproductive organs you’re born with.”It’s generally how we divide society into two groups, male and female. Also note that there people born with both male and female reproductive…
Cunnilingus also known as oral sex, licking someone out, eating someone out, going down on someone, and giving head is the fancy, official term used to describe when someone uses their mouth to stimulate someone else’s vulva or vagina. While many women and vulva-having people love cunnilingus because it focuses heavily on stimulating the…
It might not in vogue today, but it is possible to be celibacy. Celibacy is a voluntary vow of sexual abstinence. In some cases, it can also be a promise to remain unmarried. Celibacy looks different to each person, so there’s no single way to practice it. Some people abstain from all sexual activity…
Being bold, ‘dirty talks’, ‘being naughty’. There are a lot of terms are used to describe ways to spice a sexual activity or become kinky. Being sexually dominated, having sex with multiple people at once, watching someone undress without their knowledge. These are just a few of the totallynormal sexual fantasies uncovered by recent researchpublished…
Teens and peer pressure are a common combination, with peer pressure statisticsshowingthat when teens’ friends ask them to smoke or drink, they are more likely to do so. One peer pressure definitiondescribesit as occurring when a teen does something he or she normally wouldn’t do to fit in with friends. While peer pressure can be…
Picture this. You are on a bus and listening to the radio or music using a headset. The bus stops to allow a passenger alight and there comes in a passenger. You look up and sees that they are this person who has come in is very attractive and has the looks of that person…
The practice of wearing the clothing of another gender figures largely in many media, literary, and popular cultural sources. In this article, we will explore cross-dressing, including its definition, how the practice is viewed differently in Eastern and Western cultures, and the psychology behind it. Simply put, cross-dressing is the name for the act of…
Sexual behavior, the composite of physiologic, anatomic, and psycho-social factors, is unique in every individual, and therefore, no one definition of sexual behavior is universally accepted. The female sex organs make it possible for women to become pregnant and give birth to children. But they have other important jobs, too: They produce hormones, control the…
Oral sex: Oral sex is using your mouth and tongue to stimulate your partner’s genitals or anus. Oral sex can be given to any of the sexes to any of the sexes. A man’s penis does not need to be erect for you to start oral sex (a blow job) but you may want to…
Although teenagers feel that waiting to have sex is a nice idea, they believe that hardly anyone does it. In fact, many teens, particularly boys, feel pressure to have sex, and they say drugs and alcohol usually lead to sex — often without condoms. Past research has found that social influence is associated with behaviors such as…
Sex can be fun, liberating, and utterly wonderful, but not always. Sometimes it feels like something is missing after sex. Sometimes we think that it shouldn’t have happened or should have been different. Sex means different things to different people. Above all, it is a healthy and natural activity. It is something most people enjoy…
Sex is the most talked-about, joked about, thought-about issue in popular culture. It is the subject of songs, movies, and even television adverts. Every grown adult is expected to know how to do it, but beyond the basic mechanics we’re not taught about it and fiction is coy. We are not short of information on…
Peer pressure is always tough to deal with, especially when it comes to sex. Some teenagers decide to have sexual relationships because their friends think sex is cool. Others feel pressured by the person they are dating. Still, others find it easier to give in and have sex than to try to explain why not….
Coprophilia is an erotic fascination with feces and general filth and uncleanliness. When a person experiences some type of sexual pleasure associated with feces, they are called coprophiliacs. Coprophiliacs enjoy either watching people defecate, defecating on someone themselves, being defecated on, smearing feces (scatolia), and sometimes eating feces (coprophagia). In some adults, coprophilia may manifest…
